|Posted by elenahuerta10 on June 1, 2016 at 8:40 PM|
Projection is an important thing to understand in relationships. It explains the jump between : this is what "so and so" is thinking, and what "so and so" is actually thinking. It's a method of imposing our own reasonings and judgements upon another person, by assuming that they act the same way that we do for the same reasons. Because we are all individuals, it is important to understand that this is not necessarily how things are. One individual may turn off the lights inside to save energy, while another may turn them off in order to sleep better. At first glance this action may seem simple, and one would hardly have a reason to question it. This individual action does demonstrate how two different people can have two different motives while performing the same action.
We all tend to project, because we all have our own world of reasons and habits. They don't have to leak so much into our relationships, however, if we are conscious and pay attention through self awareness. When we turn inward and listen to our intuitions above our egoic self, we can see and understand the real reasons behind a person's actions rather than how we want the reasoning to be. There's also the beauty of communication. If we don't understand someone, and want to, it's important to be able to openly ask honest questions. We won't always understand, especially if our heads get clouded by emotion or judgement. In the act of asking someone questions about their motives, we also have the potential to strengthen our relationship and trust with them. In my own relationships I have found trust to be of the highest importance.
I hope this brief explanation is helpful to those out there who are curious about projection. Please feel free to leave comments and questions below!